Not sure where to, but I'll figure it out somewhere along the way.
Monday, December 21, 2009
Days not over yet...
He said to me, 'how you doin beautiful?' I checked the street, I was the only one around, he was talking to me. I smiled, cuz he was right. Thank you kind stranger who helpped boost my ego. You're sweet.
I don't know... more often than not, those comments creep me out when coming from strangers (especially the types of strangers who usually say those things).
What a grossly inappropriate way for anyone to speak to an Orthodox Jewish female to whom they are not married or otherwise related. You must have been so embarrassed.
yossi- lol. i would make sure to say it to you, but it is highly inapporopriate, plus i have yet to meet you in person. but i am sure you are beautiful.
inkstained- i lived here practically all my life. ive seen the underworld. but some guys just make me laugh, instead of think oh he's creepy. yes, some are nice ppl.
This idea, of complimenting a woman's beauty (which I of course wouldn't dream of) has long pestered me. I have many things to say about it, but suffice it to say that if it is, in fact, stating the objectively obvious, then there's no novelty in it, so of course the recipient of such praise wouldn't be grateful (especially if the giver of praise has personal motives). The "chiddush" is to "find" beauty where it is not ordinarily found (for example to praise the beauty of a woman who's objectively ugly).
i dont care. if a nice harmless guy wants to tell me that im pretty, and put a smile on my face, then i'll take it, and no that does not say anything abt me just cuz i dont find it creepy.
Haha, well the only problem is that objective beauty and ugliness don't really exist, so it has a lot to do with the perception of the viewer and the self-esteem of the viewed (i.e. it could be he instinctively found you attractive but you didn't find yourself so).
cuz u really think a girl would walk by a guy and say, 'hi sexy'?
the point is, to women its degrading. so some. thats not my opinion though. i mean, if the guys just saying that to get you into bed, then ya, thats degrading. on the other hand, there is no chance of that happening. so take it as a compliment, and move on.
"cuz u really think a girl would walk by a guy and say, 'hi sexy'?"- I know as well as you do that even if she was ugly and he beautiful, it's still unheard of. But why such a discrepecy between the sexes?
I don't know... more often than not, those comments creep me out when coming from strangers (especially the types of strangers who usually say those things).
ReplyDeletegod knew you needed it so he gave it to you.
ReplyDeletehmmm, what did he look like? I've gotten that a few times, also
ReplyDeleteWhat a grossly inappropriate way for anyone to speak to an Orthodox Jewish female to whom they are not married or otherwise related. You must have been so embarrassed.
ReplyDeleteUgh, I have a whole rant about creepy men, I could go on for hours.
ReplyDeleteink stained and chenyok, na, i didnt care, i thought it was nice actually. its not like he said something offensive. he just pointed out the obvious.
ReplyDeletehh- ya cuz god knew that you were not gonna say it.
yossi- noooo lol. 4 real? thats sweet.
sarabon, i dunno, this guy wasnt creepy. i found it nice actually.
ReplyDeleteno, not for real. nobody's ever stopped me on the street to tell me I'm beautiful. sigh.
ReplyDeletea most probable concept on which i would like to differ
ReplyDeleteHe wasn't creepy? Wow, now that's a rarity in NY!
ReplyDeleteThere are just some people that seem creepy, even when all they're doing is telling you the obvious. ;]
hh- that sounds beautiful, but means nothing.
ReplyDeleteyossi- lol. i would make sure to say it to you, but it is highly inapporopriate, plus i have yet to meet you in person. but i am sure you are beautiful.
inkstained- i lived here practically all my life. ive seen the underworld. but some guys just make me laugh, instead of think oh he's creepy. yes, some are nice ppl.
it means a lot for the gifted ones...
ReplyDeletestop speaking in riddles
ReplyDeleteif you were as smart as they say, then this would never count as a challenge
ReplyDeletewho's they? I am smart thank you very much. practice what you preach. u wanna say something, say it. u dont, dont.
ReplyDeleteits suppose to be an enigma, homosapient female
ReplyDeletetheres not T in homo sapien.
ReplyDeleteenigma, big word for you.
This idea, of complimenting a woman's beauty (which I of course wouldn't dream of) has long pestered me. I have many things to say about it, but suffice it to say that if it is, in fact, stating the objectively obvious, then there's no novelty in it, so of course the recipient of such praise wouldn't be grateful (especially if the giver of praise has personal motives). The "chiddush" is to "find" beauty where it is not ordinarily found (for example to praise the beauty of a woman who's objectively ugly).
ReplyDeletehaha shriki, you calling me ugly? be careful dude, you are on vvery fine ground here.
ReplyDeletewhat if stating the obvious is not so obvious to the recipient, and will boost their self image?
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ReplyDeletei dont care. if a nice harmless guy wants to tell me that im pretty, and put a smile on my face, then i'll take it, and no that does not say anything abt me just cuz i dont find it creepy.
ReplyDeleteHaha, well the only problem is that objective beauty and ugliness don't really exist, so it has a lot to do with the perception of the viewer and the self-esteem of the viewed (i.e. it could be he instinctively found you attractive but you didn't find yourself so).
ReplyDeleteThe funny thing is, I find it difficult to imagine a guy who would frown upon such praise...but the girls seem divided on it...
ReplyDelete'beauty is in the eyes of the beholder'.
ReplyDeletecuz u really think a girl would walk by a guy and say, 'hi sexy'?
the point is, to women its degrading. so some. thats not my opinion though. i mean, if the guys just saying that to get you into bed, then ya, thats degrading. on the other hand, there is no chance of that happening. so take it as a compliment, and move on.
"cuz u really think a girl would walk by a guy and say, 'hi sexy'?"- I know as well as you do that even if she was ugly and he beautiful, it's still unheard of. But why such a discrepecy between the sexes?
ReplyDeletedo not question what is and will never change.
ReplyDeleteGuess it just goes with being the 'fairer' sex...
ReplyDeleteya ya wtvr. i hate gender conversations. unless you are gonna tell me that women are hot and you worship us.
ReplyDelete: ) (Actually, somewhere between a smile and a confused look, but there's no face for that!)
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