Girls and boys

This is something that never made sense to me. So you tell me, please. Because apparently, you understand it more than I do.

There are girls, and there are boys. G-d created two different beings. Is one better than the other? Are we equal? No, to both. We are just different.

You can't explain it. Just like you can't explain how the sun and the moon are different, or how people and animals are different. I'm sure the brilliant scientists can use their fancy language to come up with some theory of how we're different. But in plain simple english, we are just different. End of story.

I don't know why G-d made it that way. I never know why G-d does what He does. But according to science, opposites attract. (Though this may be true, never believe everything scientists tell us. they don't always know what they're talking about.)

Males and females are opposite, and so, they attract. Naturally. But G-d made rules, guidelines. He gave us the ability to havbe feelings, and then He told us how to deal with them.

Marriage. That's a rule. G-d wants us to get married. He wants a husband and wife to be attracted to eachother, so they can be together as man and wife, and have children, because G-d wants it, etc etc. It's really very simple when you think about it. Except it's not simple at all.

G-d is simple, in a way. The rules are simple. But people are not simple. They are very, very complicated. They follow their natural insticts, which is, to do whatever the heck you feel like, instead of following G-d's will. To follow what G-d wants is actually against nature, however confusing that sounds.

So let's simplify this. Girls like boys. Boys like girls. They are attracted to eachother, and have the ability to nurture feelings for eachother. BUT- and heres the big but- G-d wants feelings to develope ONLY in the proper setting, which is, marriage. Simple, right?

So why do I see girls and guys hanging out all over the place? Shomer negia? What's that? So I touch guys, whats the big deal? I mean, I'll get married eventually, like, whatever. Girls, guys, girls, guys. What's the difference?

You think I'm judging you? You think I'm above all this, that I am not attracted to guys? So, i'm like, lesbian, or a loner, or just plain weird?

No, not at all. I understand it, because I go through it myself. But understanding, and doing, are two different things. On the contrary, I refrain because I understand it.

Now before anyone comes along and tries to knock me off my high horse, I just want to say two things. Firstly, that one of my bigger goals in life is to get married to a great guy, with good midos, and a nice personality. I want to have a big family, with lots of kids. So no, I'm not immune to all this, I just want to go about it the right way.

And one more thing. Dappling with guys before marriage will generally just lead to heartbreak. If you listen to half the songs out there in the goyish world, (which, of course, you shouldn't), the majority talk about cheating boyfriends, heartbreak, break-ups, and other things along those lines. So take my word for it, its NOT worth it.

Ok, I got my shield ready. Now you can feel free to come after me.