Do you really want to be THAT girl? The one that people can't stand? The one about whom people say, 'you are not my mother', or 'yes mom', in a very condescending eye-rolling sarcasm-filled voice?
Who does?
Who wants to be their mom? I love my mother, but really?
"Turn off the lights when you leave a room. Wash your dishes.Take out the garbage please."
Do you want to be THAT girl? The one who chides her friend about drinking too much? Or points out when a girl's skirt is too short?
Do you want to be the girl who feels it is her job to put others in their places? Do you want to be the girl who everyone tells to 'live a little', the one who seems to everyone to be too serious and responsible? Like the world makes it seem like being responsible is a thing to be pitied. At least in your early twenties it is. But then when you become a mom you are expected to be responsible, and if you are still a 'party girl', they pity you for that.
Do you want to be the girl who gets all up in everyone's business?
From a simple request- "Turn off the light when you leave a room"- cuz really, why leave all the lights burning when nobody is home- comes all these questions.
So tell me- who do you want to be? The girl who doesn't care about anything at all, the girl where everything flows, the girl who says live and let live, your life is not my problem, do whatever you want, it doesn't concern me, we have nothing to do with each other?
Or do you want to be the one about whom they say, 'Oh, did someone ask you to monitor the electricity?'
No. But is there something wrong with being a little responsible? Will it kill you to turn off the light?
And why, I ask, does everybody hate THAT girl?
Simple. My Mommy is better than your Mommy.
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An admission.
Of what? The fact that your comment doesn't even deserve a response?
ReplyDeleteAs the saying goes, "Hoogmoed, die uiteindelike moordenaar".
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ReplyDeleteYou know what really bothers me? That you have no regard for my posts. You leave comments that have seemingly nothing to do with what i write. I feel this is a disrespect of my space. And yes this is my space. If you want your own soap box then start your own blog. Dont invade mine.
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ReplyDeletebut seriously... my rule of thumb for many years has been... keep your mouth shut. I never tell other people what I think they are doing wrong. As I write this I wonder, "Is this true? Can it be possible that I really never do?" but regardless of whether I follow it, it's what I consider to be my policy. And with most people, I think it's the right policy. The question is, with people who are truly close to you, your sister, your best friend... there must be a time when it would be harmful not to speak up, a time when it would be your responsibility in the relationship to say something. But again and again I have witnessed speech have the opposite effect. Again and again I've seen speech backfire and do harm instead of good. And I'm a coward, I'm too scared to risk it. I don't want to drive away someone close to me, make them feel judged and disrespected... and they know... what can I tell them that they haven't already considered?
There's some kind of catch here, I know there is, but for now I remain where I am, on the fence, never speaking my mind. Because so far the consequences of speech have shown them to be far greater than the consequences of silence.
I see your point of view. But there are some things that you just can't keep quiet about. In regards to friends and family, if it is something they need to hear then you should say it, even if you might suffer backlash.
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