Save your breath
For those times when you will really need to speak.
Don't waste your time
Sparring with the enemy.
Don't waste your words on
Those people who hurt you.
Don't waste your words on
The haters, the ones who want to see you fail.
The lovers who think they know what's best for you
But try to keep you in the very shell you tried so hard to break out of.
The ones who try to help you
And insist on it
When you say you don't need help.
Are they trying to help you
Or are they glorifying their own need
To have and to hold?
Do you want me to want you?
Do you need me to need you?
Can you honestly not believe that I've changed?
I've grown. I'm all better now.
Maybe that means I don't need you any more.
And maybe that bothers you.
So you lash out at me.
What do I owe you?
Do I owe you an apology?
Have I wronged you In any way?
Do I owe you an explanation?
When I feel like you are invading my thoughts
My feelings my personal space
And planting things there that are false.
There was a time when I needed you.
Unhealthy as it was.
That time is gone now.
Friends for a reason.
But I know when it's worth it to keep talking-
And when its best to just save my breath.
So I hit delete
And I silently say goodbye to you
And that time in my life.
Stop trying to protect me.
When I say I'm fine and you choose not to believe it-
I know its time to let you go.
Uh, it's great and all that you're done with your friend, but to quote an unknown wise person, "Friends aren't jumper cables, you can't just throw them in the trunk and pull them out for emergencies." You may be done with whomever, but maybe they need you.
ReplyDeleteI appreciate your wise words, but you may not understand the full picture. In addition, some 'friends' are toxic for you. Do you suggest sticking around people who are not healthy for you?
DeleteRight, I hear that. I think the only time it's okay to ditch a friend is if the relationship is unhealthy and/or toxic for one or both of you. Being quite the quote guru today, I do believe, as Adam Sandler said, “It’s important you surround yourself with people who make you happy.”
DeleteBesides for making you happy, I believe in putting up with a friend even in miserable times, because a true friend never jumps ship.
DeleteHowever, in some cases, a relationship may not be healthy if one person is too clingy and dependent on the other, or if one person WANTS the other one to tell them all their dirty little secrets only for the sake of having some sort of power over them. Some people have such a desire to "help" people that they will inflict the pain in order to save their own victim.
I'm not saying that is my situation, I'm merely pointing out that there are more explanations than that someone is just selfishly ditching a friend they no longer need.
Sounds harsh. For obvious reasons I don't like the ending of friendships, but true, sometime for the sake of both of you it should end, and you'll both just be miserable if it doesn't. At the same time though, don't ditch a friend in an our of need or even when you feel you just don't need em anymore. And if you're selfish enough to do that, you sure as heck shouldn't come back a few months later like nothings wrong just because you need em then.
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