Sometimes people don't even realize what kind of strengths or talents they possess. It takes experiences, and people around them to help them discover it.
Another thing I have learned in life: always look ahead, because looking back will get you nowhere, and you might bump into a wall. Some people dwell on the past. But then, you are not really living.
On the other hand, don't rush your life, because it'll be over before you know it and you will not even have enjoyed it.
I counted 15 weeks until the end of the school year. 15 weeks until my job is done. There is a lot of good things happening in the near future. Things to look forward to. But if you look too far ahead you trip over what is right in front of you.
My grandmother keeps asking me what I have planned for next year. (She can't wait to hear that I will be going back to college.) My answer every time is, I have no idea. Next year is one big question mark. I don't like planning so far ahead because plans fall through. And of course, sometime we plan things to the T, but G-d has a different plan for us.
So what I'm saying is, just live life and enjoy every day. Don't look back, don't look forward, just live in the moment and make lasting memories.
Have a good Shabbos.
So no one should plan out the future? Because there's a chance it won't work out? Or because prudently planning for things will take away from the "fun" we'd otherwise be having?
ReplyDeleteI was recently talking to a 30 year old who works for me. He's deeply depressed because he spent his younger years "partying and enjoying himself" and now he's 30, no career, no ambition in life and no future.
Perhaps there is a balance that can be struck between looking ahead and living in the moment. But arguing that planning for the future is futile is foolish - and will eventually lead the 30 year old you to wonder what the hell you were thinking and why it was so important to "live in the moment'.
Just my 2 cents.
I don't recall saying not to plan for the future. All I said was "I don't like planning so far ahead because plans fall through." That is my personal opinion and preferance.
ReplyDeleteWith G-d's help everything turns out in the end. So many times I didn't have a summer job and then found one a week before camp started. I got accepted to high school a week before school started.
I am NOT saying not to plan, to sit around and do nothing and hope for the best. On the other hand, some people plan out their whole lives, down to how many kids they are gonna have and of which gender, and then it doesn't work out as they planned.
I am just saying that not everything works out the way you intended it to.
A balance is what is needed, correct. As soon as you find the perfect balance, maybe you can bottle it and sell it.
That's really hard to have to plan. Decisions are never easy. May Hashem guide you through so you make the right decision!!
ReplyDeleteHere's a good quote you reminded me of: "Look at life through the wind-shield, not the rear-view mirror"
:) thanks Devorah, I shall try to take your advice.
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