Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet a guy who truly gets me.
They say that G-d makes the perfect match for each person, but what if I meet someone who doesn't understand me, and like a petulant child I say, 'no you just don't understand!'.
What if I meet someone who understands me perfectly, and I'm the one who doesn't understand him?
Does one have to like all the same things and have an interest in all the same things as their spouse?
Maybe the important things.
I don't think you can be with someone if you don't fully appreciate their gift, or care about what they care about as they need you to. What if someone paints, and every time they finish a painting that they think is a masterpiece, their spouse says absentmindedly, 'oh honey, that's nice'. That might not work in a relationship.
Should you not go out with someone if you hear that they are passionate about ________ but you have absolutely no interest in that subject/thing?
Yes, you should. As long as it doesn't bother you. Everyone has their narishkeit. You're husband will have to put up with yours, and you'll have to put up with his. That's how marriage works.
ReplyDelete"Everyone has their narishkeit"
ReplyDeleteYes but if someone is passionate about something and to you it is just narishkeit then I don't think it will work so well.
I'm passionate about comic books. I don't expect my wife to be, simply just to be able to put up with it.
DeleteI think that perhaps you and I mean different things when we use the word passion.
DeleteI don't think you know just how passionate comic book fans can be :P
Delete5L has a point. we are not talking about comic books here, but someone with a real talent or interest in say music or art. what if you tried to publish a book but had no support from your spouse who thought that writing was silly and a waste of time. that will not keep a marriage going.
Delete