Short guys are cute. Like 'put-you-in-my-pocket' cute. I have already determined that I cannot marry a short guy because I look down upon them. (Pun intended.)
I'm not tall. I'm of average height, though for a female some might say I am above average. Either way, there are plenty of tall guys out there, I know because I've seen them. And yet somehow really tall guys end up with really short girls and leaves us all wondering- why couldn't the short girls have left the tall guys for the taller girls and marry short guys instead? Short guys can marry tall girls but it is not so common, especially being that some guys feel intimidated or emasculated by taller girls. And girls in general want to feel physically smaller then their man so they feel protected. It is all about evolution really.
Now sissy boys- they are another story altogether. I know Freud came up with the Oedipus complex, which in short says that a child desires to sexually possess his/her mother, and kill his/her father. Understandably, Freud was nuts. However, we do know that many people end up marrying someone who has some of the same qualities as their parents.
I rarely remember ever seeing my father cry. Maybe once. (My mother is a whole other story.) My father is practical, down to earth, a realist, a strong solid force. The saying 'Real men don't cry' is wrong on so many levels. Real men should cry. When they marry the girl they will spend their whole life with, when they hold their first child in their hands. Crying is a natural state of emotions. However, it should be limited to certain periods of time for certain reasons and certain lengths.
Guys that cry for no reason or for reasons that are not very valid- I would call them girly. To them I say, 'buck up chuck', and 'walk it off', and 'get over it'. Because men are not supposed to cry. They are supposed to be strong, pull it together, roll with the punches. In a stressful situation, there is only one person that is allowed to fall apart and that is not the man. A blubbering man makes no one feel reassured.
So, no short guys and no girly boys for me. Anyone else?
No short guys or girly guys for me either :P
ReplyDeleteI have told my short(er) friends that they have to marry short guys, because who will marry them? The ironic thing is that most of them want tall...because they don't want their kids to be short.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, height, along with other numbers such as age, is just a number. But that is something that both members need to feel comfortable with. I know girls that have married guys shorter than them.
Now unto the topic of "girly guys". I think that each couple is a balance and some guys might be more emotional and some girls might be more logical. I do think there is a time and a place for every single emotion and saying a guy is "girly" because he cries, is like calling a girl "butch" because she likes to dress like a guy and play sports. It is inappropriate. Though there are gender differences, it is on a spectrum and I think many guys are psychologically damaged (specially at a younger age) by not being able to express certain emotions because they have to be "tough".
"Because men are not supposed to cry. They are supposed to be strong, pull it together, roll with the punches." Says who? Shouldn't women also at times not cry, stay strong and pull it together?
A) My father is tall my mom is short and most of the kids are average height.
DeleteB) I would marry a guy who's younger than me (not drastically so) but not shorter than me. There's a difference. And yes to some people it doesn't matter.
C) You make all true and valid arguments. For me personally, I don't think I could handle an emotional guy, being that I at times tend to be emotional, and I wouldn't want to be 'competing' with my spouse for who can be more emotional. And I'm not saying guys should repress their emotions. I'm just saying, don't cry over a girl, or a car, or whatever. Some things are not worth it.
D) You are right, I am generalizing. Sometimes women are forced to act like the man in a relationship. And yes women can also be strong and tough and hold things together. But why should they have to if they have a strong man to do it for them?
"Real men should cry. When they marry the girl they will spend their whole life with, when they hold their first child in their hands. Crying is a natural state of emotions."
ReplyDeleteOmg, yes. Thank you. I've been saying this for years. There is nothing as sexy as a guy who has the ability to acknowledge the fact that he has a soft heart.
P.S- No shorties for me either :D
Not marrying or dating short guys isn't "evolution" anymore than not dating a black guy, white guy, fat guy or bald guy isn't "evolution". The idea that a short woman HAS to marry a tall(er) guy is all social. Not all societies emphasize that a man MUST be tall(er), dark and handsome.
ReplyDeleteNothing wrong with only looking for taller men, but don't make up reasons to justify your preference (and everyone is entitled to a preference).
:)