This is response to the previous post, and this comment:
- Seriously though what should guys look for?
So I composed a list of what a guy should look for in a girl. But if you are a guy, feel free to make your own list, or add to mine.
Find a girl who asks about your day, and listens to your response.
Find a girl who let's you hang out with 'the guys' and doesn't ask about what you did.
Find a girl who doesn't mind your mess, and gives you your space.
Find a girl who can drink as much as you can, and laugh with you when you're both drunk.
Find a girl who keeps your secrets, but respects your privacy.
Find a girl who at the end of the day, you want to hug her, and protect her, but she in turn makes you feel safe.
Find a girl who makes you smile just thinking about her.
Find a girl who makes you laugh.
Find a girl who you feel comfortable crying in front of, and makes you feel like you can lean on her, and she will hold you up.
Find a girl who has confidence in you, and stands behind you even when the world does not.
Find a girl who will pack you lunches, and include a note with a smiley on it.
Find a girl who would declare you innocent, even when you are guilty as sin.
Find a girl who sees not your faults, but your strengths.
Find a girl who will push you to your limits, because she believes that you can go far.
Find a girl who won't say a word when all her friends are swapping 'my husband' stories.
Find a girl who will come to your ball games, and cheer the loudest of all.
Find a girl who owns the other half of your soul.
Find that girl. She's out there.
might i ask when you became an expert on love and relationships?
ReplyDeleteMight I ask why you doubt my abilities?
ReplyDeleteCAT FIGHT!!! lol. Very beautiful
ReplyDelete''Find a girl who can drink as much as you can, and laugh with you when you're both drunk.'' I liked that one in particular.
Thank you for answering
Thank you.
ReplyDeleteI was gonna say, 'do it yourself since you are the guy' but I decided since I'm a good writer, why not.
Anonymous friend of mine said:
ReplyDeleteNice list but I think your coming from the approach of "what would I want in a girl if I was a guy" type thing. And I have problems with a lot of them.
Your ideal girl is too giving.
"A girl who lets you hang out with the guys and doesn't ask about what you did."
Sure once in a while is fine like for example the day of his bachelor party. ... Read More
Also:
"Find a girl who doesn't mind your mess, and who gives you your space."
Yeah, I despise those girls who nag their husbands all day long but after a while any girl will get sick of seeing a month old accumulation of dirty socks on the bedroom floor is not only entitled but is obligated to yell at her husband. Asking a girl to be okay with her husbands mess is like asking a guy to be okay with his wife's used tampon applicators...
"Find a girl who sees not your faults but your strengths"
Constructive criticism anyone?
Go see the movie "The Ugly Truth" not that it was great or anything but it had an important point:
Never try to be what you think a guy needs/wants. Be yourself and the right guy/girl will come along.
This girl sounds perfect, a little too perfect in fact. Two of my Rabbi's both went on trips last month to two very Jew heavy places, one went to Israel, the other, NYC. I asked both of them seperately, and jokingly, if they found my beshert there, to take her home with them for me. They both said, basically verbatim: "When you find yourself, you will find your beshert." While I haven't found myself yet, I know I am out there somewhere. And, now I am just rambling, but great post.
ReplyDeleteThank you. And yes, I have learned that too. You know you are ready to get married when you are okay by yourself. Something like that.
ReplyDeleteOf course shes too perfect. Dont gorget that I am a girl trying to write it from s guys perspective. Now YOU try.
I would add one thing to that list, "Find a girl who is herself around you."
ReplyDeleteFind a guy who makes you feel comfortable just being yourself around him.
ReplyDeleteThe very first comment:Find a girl who asks about your day, and listens to your response.
ReplyDeleteA guy does not need to look for that very hard, it is natural for women, well 90% of them. It is the guys, I say 99.99999% of them, that have to be trained to do that. Yes if the girl is able to make a right effort, she will make men to listen.
Actually I might ask, Find a girl who won't say a word when all her friends are swapping 'my husband' stories. Does that ever happen?
ReplyDeleteHem, the won't say a word part
ReplyDeleteYou like that one?
ReplyDeleteWhat I want is:
ReplyDeleteA girl who isnt dumb (basically I can tolerate them, I cant tolerate dumb people).
A girl who likes me.
thats AL you want? if you can find a girl who likes you, and isnt dumb (you didnt say she has to be smart) then you are all set?
ReplyDeleteI doubt that.
I conclude that such a woman can not be found in the natural world. She would have to be built and programed from the most advanced technology we can procure.
ReplyDelete"Find a girl who sees not your faults, but your strengths."
ReplyDeleteI'll add to that, ""When you like someone, you like them in spite of their faults. When you love someone, you love them with their faults." Elizabeth Cameron
Staples...women weren't made by G-d, who has MORE technology than we can procure?
ReplyDeleteOK, just saw this (after my comment on previous post).
ReplyDeleteI apologize for the selfish accusation.