The balls are thrown about the crowd, hitting heads and hands and arms as kids and people chase them, throw them, try to keep them in the air, keep the game going for as long as they can, don't let them touch the ground, don't let them fall.
We all wear masks around friends, family and even ourselves. We share some but not all of our thoughts, perhaps because some thoughts are not meant to be shared, or some things we simply don't want to admit.
So we lie, we say things like "I'm happy" when we're really not, or "I'm excited" when everything feels horrible.
We feel the pressure to put on a face for society, show them that we are alright, that we are holding it all together, when inside all we are thinking of is how everything is falling apart.
"I'm alright" is my personal favorite.
ReplyDeleteWell most people don't really care what you are feeling or going through. They want to hear that you are fine and that's it. Even if it's not true.
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ReplyDeleteI disagree
ReplyDeleteI believe this all depends on our community, family and friends that's one thing about chabad, they have this thing called a Mashpia which is basically a older person that one feels they have a connection to or the like and they are supposed to tell them everything that happens all there problems troubles doubts questions but it's also like a free psychiatrist
It is not at all like a free psychiatrist. I had a mashpia who I eventually lost touch with and basically just kept her around to list her on my Shidduch resume. It came to a point where she asked me to answer a lot of personal questions about where I was holding in yiddishkeit, and we basically decided to part ways as friends. A mashpia is supposed to give you spiritual guidance and show you where you can improve in life.
DeleteI do agree that everyone should have a good friend or confidante with whom they feel they can share things. For some people this is a parent. And for some people who have had their trust broken, or spilled their guts to someone only to be met with awkward silence... I'm sure you can understand how it would be difficult to confide in people again.
Sorry about the first part (I got side tracted) I was saying about the family and friends. I believe if one is surrounded by people they feel comfortable enough with then they will say the truth maybe not to everyone but at least to a handful
ReplyDeleteI understand what you are saying but again, everyone is different. Some people have their trust broken and it is hard to feel that they can safely share their feelings without repercussions.
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